Asking “Why” has been a rather peculiar habit of many young children. Having raised 2 children myself, I was always amazed, and often frustrated, with how many times my children would ask me “Why” to any scenario. It wasn’t until recently that I learned the value of asking myself “Why”.
By repeatedly asking the question “Why”, you begin to peel away at the layers of symptoms or excuses which can lead to the root cause of a problem. I often use this strategy when trying to uncover the root cause to a person’s health complaint, however you can literally use this technique to uncover the root cause to any situation. Whether it comes to finances, your health, relationships, eating habits, exercise habits, hobbies, or whatever you want more clarity on understanding. Listed below is an example of how this works.
For many years, I stopped attending church services and functions. It wasn’t until recently (4-5 years ago) that I began to regularly attend church services, in large part because I found an amazing church, pastor, and leadership staff at New Life Church here in Locust, NC. But “Why” did I stop going? Below is the answer:
- Why do you no longer attend church? – Because church is boring.
- Why is church boring? – Because every service is the same boring routine, I sit, I stand, I kneel, I shake hands, I listen to a pastor read from a bible using names, and places, and situations that I don’t understand and can’t pronounce, and then I sing the same songs over and over and over again.
- Why do you get bored with ritualistic methodology? – Because I crave change and challenges. I like understanding and questioning. I seek out answers to my problems and questions and sitting through a 1 hour church service is not helping me to solve my problems.
- Why do you believe that the church is not helping to solve your problems? – Because the church has never asked me my problems, nor have I been offered an opportunity to express my challenges or have my questions answered.
- Why do you think that the church has not approached you specifically about your problems or challenges? – Because I never asked them to and am too embarrassed to ask for fear that I will be judged and humiliated like some of the people in the stories in the bible.
- Why do you think the church will judge you or humiliate you? – Because I have learned in church that when you make mistakes you will be judged, you will have to repent and you will be told that if you don’t you will go straight to Hell.
- Why do you feel that the church is out to judge you and send you to Hell? – I don’t really feel that the church wants to send me to Hell, I am simply ashamed that I continue to make mistakes and fall short of Gods glory or expectations of me.
So what have we learned from this exercise? Why was I no longer wanting to attend church? Not because church is boring, but because going to church forces me to evaluate my actions and makes me accountable for my actions.
So if you are struggling with weight loss, or living paycheck to paycheck, or in a failing relationship, or looking for a career change, or move, or whatever the situation. Try applying the 7 “Whys” to your particular situation and see what the root cause to your situation reveals to you.
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